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Off Topic / Re: Threadjacking!
« on: 21 January, 2019, 07:52:03 pm »
Ah, my fishy liege- that sounds lovely, but I doubt anything will be better than sprouts with creme fraiche and bacon...

A treat my teenagers actually requested be on the table for Christmas dinner.

... while the wife requested NBC suit respirators?


Off Topic / Re: The Political Thread
« on: 17 January, 2019, 08:50:30 pm »
Although Labour still got a kicking, but Owen Jones and others acted like Labour won.

Owen Jones still thinks he's in the 6th form common room and writes like he's still in primary school.  I've given up on pretty much anything he writes now as it is likely to be puerile garbage ... but aye, the idea that somehow Labour did amazingly in the last GE just lacks comprehension.

The whole House at present is just a colossal embarrassment.  It's hard to tell who is the bigger joke; May or Corbyn.  The only reason May is still in power is because no-one else is stupid enough to put their head above the parapet.  Even Blojo has done his duck and cover, hoping that when the dust settles everyone will have forgotten how inept he is.  The Labour front bench though is something else again.  Brown really did a number on the party to make sure he had his shot at PM and now the country is paying the price.

General / Re: Life Spugs because...
« on: 16 January, 2019, 05:18:00 pm »
Don't suffer in silence Cybes, please use this place to vent whenever you need to.

... and don't be afraid to ask for help.  If it possible to support, we'll manage it.

Website and Forum / Re: Full Posting Privileges
« on: 15 January, 2019, 07:40:07 pm »
Hi, I'd like to be able to post too, please?  Thanks in advance.  :D

Have you tried the red box at the end of the road?

General / Re: John Cooper original art
« on: 13 January, 2019, 04:29:33 pm »
It would help to have more information about the piece as well as a picture.  Posting to the site here is a bit of a mare but if you post it to Facebook and then link that would no doubt be the easiest option.  Then you might get a clearer idea of who is up for it.

Megazine / Re: Meg 404 - Crystal Trips & Alien Stare
« on: 12 January, 2019, 10:44:15 pm »
Not too sure about the Dredd but Lynch's art continues to improve which is a definite bonus.  My money is on genetic similarity rather than revival of the old foe but that remains to be seen.  Certainly Wyatt's choice raises the question of why the individual in question has evolved into such a major protagonist for Dredd, considering all those he has faced off against over the years.

Quite a jump for Lawless and the old questions about the ethics of MC1 raised.  A little jarring but it does work and avoids so many cliches.  Blunt on the other hand ... nope, sorry you've lost me.  Storm Warning starts off reasonably well but considering the last series I'm not too sure.  Definitely a watch this space sort of thing.

Torture Garden only at the half way mark you say?  Interesting then.  Hine has managed to make the DJ's disturbing more than anything else, probably the most appropriate direction to take them in.

Notwithstanding the printing error, it is nice to have something completely new for the floppy.  If the Meg is going to include reprints then introducing us to new material that we may have missed is a definite bonus, particularly considering the over saturation of reprints of some parts of tooth history.

Film & TV / Re: DUNE rights acquired by Legendary Films.
« on: 11 January, 2019, 05:20:47 pm »
The first novel plays with it subtly.  The role of religion and prophecy are significant themes, together with ecology and eugenics.  I'm not sure I'd describe Muad d'ib as a 'superhero', rather as a superman in the Nietzschean sense of the word.  The 2nd and 3rd books really bring the dangers of 'religion' to the fore as Alia takes on the mantle  of power then Paul's children.  So yes, extremism and so on run through the books.

News / Re: RIP Ron Smith
« on: 10 January, 2019, 08:10:32 pm »
Over the years we have been truly privileged to have some of the finest artists of the last forty years work on Dredd.  No two ever produced exactly the same rendition whilst staying true to Ezquerra's original vision.  It would be interesting to see a repeat of the "Changing Faces of Dredd" feature from the first Dredd annual.  With the veritable feast of artists since it would make for an interesting work.

Off Topic / Re: Threadjacking!
« on: 07 January, 2019, 06:47:24 am »
Number 5 will never catch on ...

Off Topic / Re: The Black Dog Thread
« on: 07 January, 2019, 06:44:19 am »
What has triggered this episode is anxiety over a relationship yet again, or a potential one to be more specific. 

Quite possibly this is where CBT might be helpful, in terms of reframing what is happening.  The worst thing about relationships is that we invest a lot of ourselves in them and when the other party doesn't reciprocate in the way that we hope we see it as a reflection on us. 

Alternative interpretations can ease the impact a little:

- you are too important for the individual to risk losing in their life if the relationship doesn't work out.
- they are not in a place where the relationship is something they could cope with right now.
- they have similar baggage to you and the relationship could actually be the worst thing ever for both of you (been there, got the scars ...)
- their head is firmly ensconced in their alimentary canal.

Of course we could come out with all the usual platitudes about how important relationships really are but we know they are all complete codswallop!

Off Topic / Re: The Black Dog Thread
« on: 06 January, 2019, 06:52:55 pm »
Hi JBC, like many other folks in these parts, I can appreciate where you are coming from.  The worst thing about the dark pooch is its unerring ability to jump out on you when you're least expecting it.  Knowing what the worst aspects are is more of a challenge than experiencing them.

CBT is quite popular with primary care specialists these days and like Funt says, it has a large body of supportive research behind it.  In a lot of studies it has generally been found to be more effective than medication in long term treatment.

Possibly it's popularity is because it puts a lot of responsibility on the patient, it is cheap and easy to implement anywhere.  It's built on the idea that it is how we think about our feelings that is part of the issue with regards to chronic anxiety / depression.  Something happens, we think about it in a set way which triggers negative feelings and we're off and running.  Standard examples are along the lines of someone walks past you and ignore you, you assume that they are snubbing you which reinforces negative thoughts about yourself ...

I guess one of the advantages of the approach is it focuses less on underlying cause and more on dealing with present manifestation, if that makes sense.  No talking for hours about how your mother used to treat you (I finally get that scene in Blade Runner), more about what went through your mind when someone upset you and how else to think about it.

I've been using it for a few years now, along with Dialectic Behaviour Therapy, which is an extension of it, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (another CBT variant) with varying degrees of success.  I find some of the ideas from ACT quite helpful when I'm spiking.  Harris points out that one thing we have a really nasty habit of is giving ourselves grief when we feel low or anxious.  Anyone else we would be supportive of, but ourselves we give a damn good shoeing!  The one person we most need to be compassionate with is the last person we ever are with ...)

One really useful method is 'distancing'.  So if I'm starting to spike, I begin with a simple thought .. "Oh, I'm feeling anxious (whatever)".  This is the start of a chain  "I've just noticed ... "  "I've realised that I've just noticed .." "I'm now thinking about the fact that I realised that I've just noticed ..." and so on.  Each chain puts a bit more distance between me and my anxiety and allows it to ease off.  It tends to work better than my old tendency to ruminate, try and figure out why I'm feeling the way I am and plowing headlong into meltdown ...

Connected to this, I use his other idea about accepting that is the way I feel at that point, that it is only a feeling that will pass and that it is actually okay to feel crappy sometimes.

I'd love to be able to say it is a guaranteed method but it does work with practice.  Remember that you've only been playing around with this for a week, you are not alone and there are plenty of folks here willing to offer support of different types, that you are likely to be riding a rollercoaster for the next few days but not alone.

By all means PM if you need to.  In the meantime, what Sharky said ...

Prog / Re: Prog 2112 - Assault and Battery
« on: 05 January, 2019, 03:44:03 pm »
I thought there was traditionally a three week break instead of just the two for us subbers?

Aye, I was a bit thrown by the turn up this morning.  I thought last week's prog was an early bird from a pre-Christmas print run since we've had similar before but we'd have a longer wait for the next prog.

Curiouser and curiouser.

Off Topic / Re: Squaxx Telling Jokes
« on: 31 December, 2018, 09:34:21 am »
Gnnnn!   :o

Off Topic / Re: The Political Thread
« on: 30 December, 2018, 06:34:17 pm »
If it's not a personal question?  How much more personal can you get?

Off Topic / Re: The Political Thread
« on: 30 December, 2018, 01:46:40 pm »

.... while the general public squabble over which useful idiot is the One True Messiah and ignore what's going on.

He's not the Messiah, he's just a very naughty boy!

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