D&D player here - in the sense that I haven't played D&D for the past year :-( (any offers appreciated).
Yep. The same here.
Admittedly, a big part of my problem is chronic social anxiety, which makes being involved with new people and fitting into groups, problematic, to say the least. Maybe it's just me, but I also find that the vast majority of players tend to be quite young and I guess that, being middle-aged, I just tend to relate better to - in so far as my limits allow me to - or feel a bit more comfortable around players of my own, shall we say, vintage. I'm also hamstrung by being so technically backward in comparison to most folk. For starters, I don't have a smartphone - I just find them too damn finicky and awkward to use - so I'm out of the loop when it comes to game notifications. And as I panic a little when it comes to playing online - I'm still prone to problems when it comes to understanding technology - that only adds to my anxiety, as I don't want to hold up the rest of the players in the group.
At times like this, I wish that I was thirty or forty years younger. Sure, I'd still be crippled with social anxiety and ineptitude - believe me, I was even worse then than I am now, lol - but at least I would be of an age where the technology of the time did not feel so daunting.