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Off Topic / Re: The Dream Warriors
« on: 11 September, 2022, 07:36:01 PM »
I was skeptical but several of the random things I made seemed to fit well with what each area represented - but it might just as well have been imposing meanings on meaningless shapes...

Hmmm... I'm a bit cynical about this kind of thing, having tried a few different types of therapy myself.  I remember a therapist telling me to act as if I was some kind of chrysalis opening to be a butterfly or something.  I did it, felt ridiculous and gave her a bit of a bollocking for getting me to do something so foolish and ineffective.

17 years later, and knowing a wee bit more about psychotherapy, I haven't changed my mind one bit -  my only regret is not being able to articulate exactly what was so silly about it, which I could do now.

EDIT - Apologies - I'm a couple of pints down and am mentally blending this thread and the Black Dog one mentioned above

Off Topic / Re: The Dream Warriors
« on: 11 September, 2022, 04:55:26 PM »

A false friend? The black dog thread is right flippin' there! (points)

Now that's a bit more accurate-sounding in my book.  Every time we look at this board we're reminded that the black dog is a symbol of depression.

On the other hand, Sharky may have just seen an aggressive black dog earlier that day.

Off Topic / Re: Science is Drokking Fantastic Because...
« on: 11 September, 2022, 03:14:45 PM »
I've pretty much left Facebook, and only use Instagram to advertise my murals.  I have no intention of leaving Whatsapp though, I like it - I live alone and do a lot of things alone, but don't want to be alone ALL the time.

Oops! Was wondering what had happened that post - it was meant for the Black Dog thread, iirc.  Apologies al - a right weirdo I must have looked posting that kind of thing on the science thread.

Off Topic / Re: The Black Dog Thread
« on: 11 September, 2022, 03:09:43 PM »

I'm sure this is just a catch-up / check-in. I have them all the time with my boss and yet every time I see the notification I think "Oh no, I'm getting fired". We all associate being called in to talk to the boss as a bad thing and it usually isn't. Try not to overthink this and as always we're here for you.

As a natural-born catastrophiser, I completely agree with this - I get a sense of genuine dread and all the physical symptoms associated therewith every time I get a phone call from a number I don't recognise, or an official-looking letter.  Looking back, not one of them has had any effect on my current quality of life.  I'm working on it though; sorry to bang on ad nauseum about Dr David Burns but understanding his list of the cognitive distortions that lead to anxiety and depression have had a hugely positive effect on me. 

Catastrophising, or 'all-or-nothing thinking', is the idea that an event in the future will lead to absolute 100% disaster, rather than life's usual mix of positives and negatives.  Not saying this will work for anyone else, but I've found that writing down the absolute worst possible scenario and rehearsing it mentally makes me realise it won't be anything I really can't handle.

About ten years ago, when I was at a very low ebb in life (wracked with anxiety and sleep deprivation while being broke and working illegally in Beijing during a time of crackdown on illegal immigration), I wrote a list of my fears for the future.  I found them again years later and discovered that not one of them had come to pass.  The most awful things that actually happened - e.g. the fire last year that destroyed my home and nearly all my possessions, and which came close to killing me - were things I hadn't anticipated at all.  And even then, life went on with its normal ups and downs.

Off Topic / Re: The Dream Warriors
« on: 11 September, 2022, 02:54:02 PM »
I'm not too well up on Jung and his archetypal images, I have to admit, but it's more the pop-psychology / pseudo-mystical dream books that I don't like.  I read this morning that J-Lo filtered out auditions for dancers by sending home all Virgos after their day's auditioning, which is absolutely appalling in my opinion.

Off Topic / Re: This is the News!
« on: 11 September, 2022, 12:41:06 PM »

Probably. They'll also have to change portraits in official offices, pillar boxes and those fancy costumes some officials wear. I'm sure Charlie won't mind covering the enormous cost out of his own pocket...

The money out of his pocket is still your money.  Well, maybe not you in particular, but you get my point.

Off Topic / Re: The Dream Warriors
« on: 11 September, 2022, 12:39:31 PM »

Some of those "dream interpretation" sites can be quite amusing. For example, some time ago I dreamed that I saw a black dog killing a rabbit - which turned out not to be a rabbit but an eagle. As far as I could make out (and as far as I remember), the rabbit represented my happiness, the eagle represented my dignity and the black dog represented a false friend.

I've stopped looking them up - unless one feels really significant, which they rarely do.

See, that kind of thing I just can't be doing with.   I just can't see how there can possibly be these obscure universal symbols in dreams, where a yellow gate means losing money for every single person who dreams it.   I made up the example but you know what I mean.

Off Topic / Re: The Dream Warriors
« on: 11 September, 2022, 10:28:01 AM »
Bloody hell. Now that's a dream and a half.

I've started to really listen to my dreams lately and see what's there to use.   I keep running out of money and losing important stuff while travelling in dreams, which I have done in reality many times so it preys on my mind.  So, I need to work on ways to be better with money and to stop losing shit.

Off Topic / Re: This is the News!
« on: 11 September, 2022, 09:57:24 AM »

Mind you, she can't be much worse than Phil the bigmouthed bigot.  So, do all coins, noted and stamps from now on get Charlie's big face on them?

Off Topic / Re: RIPs
« on: 11 September, 2022, 12:48:42 AM »
For what it's worth, my comment wasn't intended to be a dig at or criticism of you Jayzus. Just genuine amusement.

Sorry. Took it too seriously and got way too defensive.

Off Topic / Re: RIPs
« on: 09 September, 2022, 10:06:14 PM »
I know it wasn't, cheers Sharky. I totally agree that this isn't the thread for political rants.

Off Topic / Re: RIPs
« on: 09 September, 2022, 08:44:58 PM »

Perhaps this discussion would be better moved to The Political Thread This is the News! thread?

Fair point.  I've made my views on monarchy known on one or the other of those threads already so I'll say no more about it here, other than to reiterate that my human response to the queen's death and my political stance against her job are two different things. 

Off Topic / Re: RIPs
« on: 09 September, 2022, 07:31:18 PM »
I'm neither British nor a monarchist but I'm very sorry for Britain's loss - as monarchs go they didn't get much better than her.

Got to be honest here Jayzus, it's absolutely hilarious reading your forum signature straight after this post.

I can just about summon up some sympathy for her and the family as people but it's long past time this while toxic, regressive system was torn down and consigned to the dustbin of history.

You'll also notice I said I'm anti-monarchy, and personally I don't feel that expressing sympathy about the passing of an iconic and apparently quite good-natured public figure is at odds with that.

I don't understand the need for a royal family and am glad that I'm a citizen rather than a subject. It might have been believable centuries ago that the right to be a monarch is ordained by God, but I don't believe in him either and the notion that people are born to rule, symbolically or otherwise, is absurd to me. Hence my tagine (though wishing death on them is just a bit of self-indulgent hyoerbole).

Maybe I wasn't clear enough:   I said that if I HAD to have a monarch it would be something like the late Elizabeth, but I'm happy that I don't have to have one.

Off Topic / Re: RIPs
« on: 09 September, 2022, 04:23:23 PM »
Also, you'll need to get used to the revisions to the national anthem.  (I only know a few lines of our own, I have to admit - it's in irish.)

Off Topic / Re: RIPs
« on: 09 September, 2022, 10:04:20 AM »
Fair point JBC.  Although if I'm completely honest I'm at a loss to explain what exactly she has done.  Perhaps that's the point.

I think that's definitely the point for me - she could have tried to meddle in politics or mouthed off with the outdated views of a privileged, out-of-touch egomaniac from a different era, but she chose not to, even as she waded through family scandal after family scandal and shared her life with a daft old bigot. 

There are some super-rich businessmen I could mention who would do well to follow her example in taking a back seat to things that don't concern them.

Like I say, I'm no monarchist - I'm an anti-monarchist in fact - but I had to have one (which I don't) they'd be something like Liz Windsor.

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