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Funt Solo:

--- Quote from: Jade Falcon on 24 October, 2021, 02:59:56 AM ---Maybe with luck they might expand their book section.

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Have you suggested that? They may not have thought of it.


--- Quote from: Jade Falcon on 24 October, 2021, 02:22:41 AM ---I know this sounds irrational, but I can't just 'let it go', its like an itch, I feel I have to do something. 

Sorry, a bit of a rant, but I'm not in the best frame of mind right now.

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Nope, it sounds perfectly normal.  We live in a society that values 'justice' even if it rarely lives up to those ideals.  From a very early age we want things to be 'fair' and get upset when they aren't.  Think about the outrage over Cummings' behaviour during lockdown.

--- Quote from: blackmocco on 23 October, 2021, 10:45:00 PM ---I think you should move on.

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... having said that, this is a positive suggestion albeit easier said than done.  Different people take different amounts of time to 'let go' of grievances and negative experiences.  Considering everything else Jade is dealing with, it does feel a little like he's doing a pretty good job on this front.

In fact I would argue that by taking advantage of this place to vent and seek support he is doing exactly that.  He has been able to express his feelings about the way it has affected him without fear of judgement. 

Quite often we struggle to let go of things because we don't actually have that opportunity.  It needs time, space and a supportive place to move the process forward.

--- Quote from: Jade Falcon on 24 October, 2021, 02:59:56 AM ---Maybe with luck they might expand their book section.

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Funt's right.  You clearly have the skills, knowledge and experience necessary to make that happen.  Oxfam currently have a monopoly in this area that needs to be challenged. 

Worst case scenario they say they are happy with things the way they are and you've lost nothing.  Best case they let you run with it and you have something to work on.

Definitely file a complaint, Jade. Ofcourse, I know less than you and you know the best so the choice is all yours. But I think that every once in a while, these companies have to be challenged. Maybe it'll be fruitless effort, but maybe it'll inspire other people to do the same.

Jade Falcon:
I'm trying to think of how to file a complaint.  There is an email and a phone number.  I somehow think a phone call would be useless, but at the same time I'm not sure.

The one who banned me also said that the area manager had been informed which complicates things more as her spreading lies and misinformation will make things very difficult.

The sheer fact is that for some time that place as well as being a good place to get good books was a boon to me.  I got a big confidence booster, I felt I was making a contribution, that I was valued.

Then when that pair arrived it got increasingly toxic, I think on Friday I had a bit of a panic attack, but the thing that is enraging me more is the sheer lies that is being spread.  What was happening was almost tantamount to workplace bullying, and later when I was out, harassment.  It seems that they were spoiling for a fight, along with what my former collegue says about the atmosphere being very sinister.  Example, volunteers are not allowed to change a window display.  I live on the Clyde Coast, and quite often if we had a donation of say, local history books and books about Clyde built ships, that would go in the window as those sort of things were popular, but it seems volunteer initiative is being stifled and its more of a "yes m'am, no m'am, three bags full".  There's talk of treating people with respect, but in my opinion it has to go both ways, you can't treat people like dirt and expect them to worship the ground you walk on.

The Legendary Shark:

Oxfam whistleblowing policy.


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