OK, quick poll please.
My wife is pregnant, 34 weeks, she has placenta previa and has been told today by the hospital and the midwife that they do not think it's a good idea for her to go on holiday to Wales on Friday because if she bleeds she will be dead in 15 minutes without proper medical care - i.e. 999 and scream down the bloody phone.
Where off to Hafan Y Mor near Pwllheli which is 50 minutes drive to the nearest maternity hospital in Bangor. Other surrounding hospitals are 'cottage' hospitals.
If we stay at home we are a steady drive 20 minutes from Calow Hospital, there's a nurse lives next door, the doctors is down the road, my cousin lives five minutes away and is a paramedic, my brothers a medical technician etc. etc.
She still wants to go, says that she'd be really pissed off if she never bleeds during the week we are away, I know it's because she does not want to upset the kids by cancelling the holiday - but we took insurance out for this instance and we don't lose the holiday just retake it in a few months time...
To me it's not rocket science - we don't go - simple
Hive mind what do you say!
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Wales will still be there.
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Quote from: Banners on 28 July, 2009, 03:43:17 PM
Wales will still be there.
What he said. Totally not worth the risk.
Cheers
Jim
Don't go.
Quote from: LARF on 28 July, 2009, 03:42:20 PM
She still wants to go, says that she'd be really pissed off if she never bleeds during the week we are away, I know it's because she does not want to upset the kids by cancelling the holiday - but we took insurance out for this instance and we don't lose the holiday just retake it in a few months time...
That's fair enough, but...
Weigh it up against what could happen, worst case scenario, if she
does bleed, and it's no question really, is it?
It's quite simple. All you have to do is follow the experts advice, after all that's why they did all the training.
Wales will always be there and you can tell the kids that you will do something extra special to make it up to them when you do go there.
You can go to Portmeirion, there's more to look at than just the village. Caenarfon and it's castle (a beautiful area on the riverside). Go down one of the old slate mines (Leechwedd Slate Caverns is excellent). I'm sure you get the drift.
All the best for the time ahead.
I read that wrong the first time and thought all the medical experts were going to be near you on holiday, ...
Stay home, have the baby and go on holiday in a few months as a happy and well family.
Quote from: COMMANDO FORCES on 28 July, 2009, 04:37:45 PM
It's quite simple. All you have to do is follow the experts advice, after all that's why they did all the training.
Wales will always be there and you can tell the kids that you will do something extra special to make it up to them when you do go there.
You can go to Portmeirion, there's more to look at than just the village. Caenarfon and it's castle (a beautiful area on the riverside). Go down one of the old slate mines (Leechwedd Slate Caverns is excellent). I'm sure you get the drift.
All the best for the time ahead.
Exactly that.
You lose the summer weather if you go off season but i have already explored Portmeirion and Carnaeveon off season and its just as good .These 2 places are an absolute must see especially Portmeirion which has its own micro climate so its always that bit warmer.
I have stayed in North Wales in the middle of winter before.
You are timing it with school breaks so why not plan a Xmas in Wales instead ?
Xmas away from home is great for kids as something different and i will never forget the Xmases away i had with family over the years.
Don't go.
Mrs Tips was away from home when preggers with Teen Tips and endured all sorts of hell and stress and scrambling around trying to find specialist maternity hospitals before giving birth some 11 weeks early (not even 3lb).
Both spent a Christmas and New Year in hospital and both are now fine and healthy (you wouldn't believe the size of Teen Tips now).
But at the time it was the single most horrendous experience of her life. (until she met me, of course).
Don't go. Really. You know it makes sense.
Even if there's the smallest risk, don't go.
Don't go.
It not worth taking the chance.
Even in good health I wouldn't go to Wales... why are you even considering this?
My own missus is 35 weeks at the mo (race ya!), and happily all is going well so far, and in your place I wouldn't go. You can surely manage a 'holiday at home' scenario, camp out in the back garden, go to the pool, make up treasure hunts, that sort of thing - second best to be sure, but oh the peace of mind!
NO!
Go on holiday. If your wife is going to be a drag just leave her behind.
Thanks everyone we're not going on holiday now, as I mentioned before - no brainer really. Nice thing about Haven is that you can postpone for a year, so when everything is back to normal in the Marshall household we'll be merrily on our way with kid No. 5 snuggled up neatly in her car seat. Fingers crossed!
Obviously when she's here you will get the obligatory post of baby with Prog.
Tordelback - I think you're in the lead at the moment Charl's 34 weeks, but the way we are going we may pip you on the final furlong.
Thanks again folks :-) all happy here.
Quote from: LARF on 28 July, 2009, 03:42:20 PM
She still wants to go, says that she'd be really pissed off if she never bleeds during the week we are away
Not as nearly as pissed off as you and the kids will be if you go and she does bleed/dies.
the kids will understand better safe then sorry.
if you have a garden put a tent up in it and have a BBQ wth the family,. your wife safely in a nice comfy chair waited on by you and the nippers.
:)
Kid number five? Holy shit!
You're a better man than I, Larf.
Good luck to you all.
- Trout (weary at the mere thought of two children)
Quote from: Tweak72 on 29 July, 2009, 10:54:48 AM
Quote from: LARF on 28 July, 2009, 03:42:20 PM
She still wants to go, says that she'd be really pissed off if she never bleeds during the week we are away
Not as nearly as pissed off as you and the kids will be if you go and she does bleed/dies.
the kids will understand better safe then sorry.
if you have a garden put a tent up in it and have a BBQ wth the family,. your wife safely in a nice comfy chair waited on by you and the nippers.
:)
What he said!
dont go
Mmmmmmmmmmm now let me think about this one, Daddy or chips!!!
You knew the answer all along really, didn't you??
I'm curious what you'd have done if everyone on the thread said you should go.
Best of luck to your missus and the coming bairn. Will you be starting your own naming thread? I've alway thought Wolverine-Logan was a great first name for a girl.
QuoteI've alway thought Wolverine-Logan was a great first name for a girl.
Recipe for grumpiness if you ask me.
I'm the eldest of five children and it's never done me any harm.
QuoteI'm the eldest of five children and it's never done me any harm.
Jeebus LARF, it's not too late to rethink this is it?
The answer is stay at home, family present and future is more important, I suggest you strap her to the bed, or is that how number five was conceived.
Can any male here figure how the womans mind works. There's a future shock story for you Tharg.
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I've changed my vote- go on hoilday!