My social life problem can anyone help

[Emperor]

I think ive found a soulachion see the charity shop where I work at is doing a thing where you can leave a romantick message in the window and the women I like well she was going a litile over happey about them arfter chating to her I get the impereshion she like stuf like that and love leteres any way ive decided a personal love leter may be the way to go thro Im not shure has any one got any more advises.

I'll make it clear your spelling isnt an issue for me,before what i say next is took the wrong way!

Make sure if your going down the letter route that you have some one cast an eye over it for spelling mistakes

Or, better, get someone to look over a draft of it and then the actual message should be fine.

However, don't use this as an excuse to fanny around (no puns) and it off - if you are going to do this then do it soon. Strike while the iron is hot, seize the day and all that.

[Cyberleader2000]

I think ive found a soulachion see the charity shop where I work at is doing a thing where you can leave a romantick message in the window and the women I like well she was going a litile over happey about them arfter chating to her I get the impereshion she like stuf like that and love leteres any way ive decided a personal love leter may be the way to go thro Im not shure has any one got any more advises.

I'll make it clear your spelling isnt an issue for me,before what i say next is took the wrong way!

Make sure if your going down the letter route that you have some one cast an eye over it for spelling mistakes

I'd still suggest just asking her.... the longer it takes you to decide to make a move the more chance there is of some one else asking her including the "mate" at work.

ok I plan to write it in word then once its spelt checked copy it down by hand then drop the letter in on my way to a job apoiment tomorrow but I did drop the ball as she was saying how my make was kind of stalkerish and I happened to say that's because he has a crush on her and she asked me if she should give him a charnce to where I responded and I'm going to shout myself because of this "its up to you" so I decided I should drop the letter in tomorrow also what has spared this idea on is that she hinted at me putting one of theas messages in the window asking matt do you want to write anything about me (thro I'm not shure if she was joking or not) thro my second idea is go in pay to put up a window note and give her a letter saying go look out front so she will see the message in the window opiouns pleases.

[Greg M.]

Personally, I feel you are over-complicating things by writing a letter, Cyberleader, and the more complicated you end up making it the more potential there is for things to go askew. Letters are very permanent, you may end up writing something that gives a different impression from what you meant - I don't really think it's the best idea. Keep it simple. Ask her verbally to go for lunch / food / something. I'm guessing you're finding that a bit daunting, but honestly, I do believe it is the better option.

[klute]

Indeed if all goes well there will plenty of time for romance

You need to act quick or some one else will be in like flynn..... i maybe wrong but it sounds like she's testing the water.... i'd guess she already knows you like her
Shy boys get no sweets

[Noisybast]

Not a letter. Seriously - not a letter.
Just talk to the girl. The worst that can happen is she'll turn you down.
As long as you're prepared for that possible eventuality and accept it with good grace if it does happen, then just bloody talk to her.

[Jared Katooie]

This is all so complicated. Just ask her out and get it over with. Odds are good you'll succeed. Invite her out for a nice meal. Don't go anywhere too cheap or too expensive.

If you don't act soon, your "mate" probably will.

[vzzbux]

I can't believe you are still pussyfooting around.
It' clear she has an interest in you. Get in there and mark your territory otherwise I may come along and bash your heads together.

Why is it that the male is expected to make the first move anyway? Surely in these equality times the women should be doing their bit instead of waiting to be woo'ed.





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[Van Dom]

Just reading through this and I concur with my fellow boarders - forget the letter, its a waste of time and there is too much potential for her to get the wrong impression from something you write or mis-interpret your meaning.

Just ask her to her face if she wants to hang out sometime. Yes = she's interested, anything else = she's not. Simples.

[Buddy]

Forget the bloody letter... just ask her out.

[Gavin_Leahy_Block]

There right, just ask her tomorrow and see what happens.

[Cyberleader2000]

I tryed asking today but I try to say but the words dont leave my mouth I find this way to hard to do

[House of Usher]

This cartoon means a lot to me.

[Tiplodocus]

Would it help to ask to go out for a coffee with someone from work that you aren't attracted to and then ask them to see if this other lass wants to come along too?

Definitely don't do a letter - that would be a bad thing.

[Dog Deever]

Stop fannying about lad, it's painful.

You talk to her anyway and all you are doing by mulling it over and going over things in your head, is giving the wrong impression of disinterest (which, if done right, can make you seem cool and alluring, but in this case I suspect not- nae offense).
You're building it up too much in your own head, turning a molehill into a mountain causing yourself self-doubt and anxiety.

Really, you're no different from anyone else- even the guys who seem at ease talking to women are a bit nervous- it's a perfectly natural feeling, they're just better at coping with it than you are. At the end of the day, there's nothing complicated about it- they are only people, not aliens and they are as different from each other as they are from you or I.


Take the bull by the fucking horns and talk to her before some glib shagger does.

[TordelBack]

No letter.  Talk.  Ask.