I have someone in my family who suffers from mental illness, and, even though I try to be supportive they often lash out (in writing and verbally: not physically) and blame me (and others) for their woes, when (like I said) we're consistently supportive. It's really tiring and upsetting to deal with because their problems are so all-consuming that they never have any empathy. They never ask how we are. I love them and I feel for them: but I don't like the way they treat me. They threatened suicide today and said it would be my fault.
I'm fine: I just wanted to write that down somewhere ... neutral.
Funt, you are not alone. You have just literally just typed out the very situation I am in with a very loved member of my family. At the moments when I, and my wife should have been at our happiest, this person has lashed out, written and verbal, threatened suicide, and embarrassed us in front of other people. Besides that, my parents are suffering, and their advanced years shouldn't be spent dealing with this.
It's awful, and I always desperately search for a way to somehow cover for this person, and take the blame myself even when I realise it will cause ructions with my partner. I'm trying my best to limit the interaction, but when you love someone so much,. and spend many minutes of every hour in your day worrying, it really does impact your own mood and mental health.